The right to an education is considered a human right by many international conventions.
While at school, we're given handbook after handbook on how to excel at reading, writing, maths, history, biology, physics and chemistry and once we leave school even more training options become available – like, learning to become a doctor, carpenter, pilot, teacher, plumber or lawyer – but what about our education in becoming a mentally strong and happy human being? Or our training in becoming a great friend, a wonderful partner, a caring citizen, a good parent, or even just how to be a nice person towards ourselves? Where's that handbook?
Indeed, we equate success with material goods like money, houses, cars or external validation, or following the path of marriage and kids, or growing in status via promotions by climbing the career ladder but what about internal success?
Like, how we feel when we wake up in the morning? How fair we fight with our partners? How patient and generous we are with our children? How we talk to ourselves? How we manage stress and overwhelm? How content in life we are and whether we live for each day or only for the weekend and holidays?
Aren’t these important areas for success?
Where is our education in understanding our feelings, thoughts and behaviours; in how to communicate in a helpful, conflict- escalating manner, or, how to create healthy, sustainable and happy relationships?
Where's the handbook that tells us how to deal with our uncomfortable feelings like guilt, shame, fear, grief, anger or stress? What about our teachings on how to think about the meaning of life, our purpose on this planet and who we really are? Or, how to deal with an existential crisis or a big loss; how to move forward when stuck with crippling anxiety or intense depression? Or how to deal with the uncertainty of global viruses, wars and recessions? Or, simply, how to cope with peer pressure, exam stress and deadlines, workplace bullying, narcissistic parents or exes, surviving a divorce or break-up, or coping with parenting a child with mental health problems?
In our human right to an education, where’s the focus on mental health and what it is and how to maintain it? Or how to be happier in life, decrease drama and increase satisfaction? How to build strong habits and lasting motivation?
Well, yes, there are many such books and they might come under the category of philosophy (thinking about thinking and how to live well), or psychology (the study of the human mind), or sociology (how everything is socially constructed) or even just good, old self-help books (teaching you to say 'fuck it' to everything, or 'stand in your power' or give in to the law of attraction).
But if you've read any of these books and you're still finding yourself looking for a psychologist, psychotherapist or coach, chances are that they didn't work. Or, perhaps, you haven't read any such book and wondering where the heck to start when it comes to figuring out who you are, where you want to go in life and how to handle all those pesky emotions (and people) who get in the way of you living a more satisfying life.
I'd argue that this is because you haven't learned how to create your own manual yet. After all, all these generalist books don't take into account your unique story and life circumstances. So, for you to learn 'how to human' and how to do so well, you need to write your own manual - the manual of youTM!
The Manual of YouTM is a one-stop-shop for your education in 'how to human', including 1 to 1 support, workshops and courses, group support, corporate training and free resources like the Manual of YouTM daily, microblog, podcast or e-book(s).
The Manual of YouTM is not just about uncovering your unique story, understanding what makes you tick and honouring your needs and worldview, but also about expanding on this story, adding layers to your current, perhaps unhelpful, narrative, to help you rewrite your story to one that's more empowering, supportive, joyous, liberating and, more importantly, long-lasting.
Question is - are you ready to do the work to create the life you want?
Thank you for reading. I hope you enjoyed this article. If you did, or didn't, or want to add something or have a question, feel free to comment below (but try and be kind about it - I'm a terribly sensitive soul).
Don't forget that this is just my opinion. You don't have to agree. These pieces of writing are just here to make you think and take from it what you like and find helpful and ignore the rest. At the end of the day, it's your life and, therefore, what you consume, what you believe, and what you think and feel is your choice.
Also, this article has been brought to you by a perfectly imperfect, flawsome dyslexic. I hope any potential spelling or grammar mistakes didn't take away from your enjoyment.
Meandering thoughts about life and the meaning of everything, from a know-it-not-all!