What does success mean to you?
Have you, actually, paused to think about this?
If so, have you reflected on whether that definition is your own or someone else's, like, perhaps you measure success based on our current Capitalist version, on social media’s filtered vision, or your parents’ outdated views?
What if walking away from a great job that isn't serving your well-being, isn’t walking away from success, but towards it?
I think success is measured in self-respect, and not money or status.
If your relationship doesn't work out, you might think of it as unsuccessful. But what about viewing it as a chance to find a better match?
Wouldn't that be a bigger success than settling?
If your feeling of success is based on external validation and results, I'd argue that you're trying to fill a sieve with water.
What are your successes that are based on and measured by the quality of your character?
Where have you shown courageous vulnerability?
Tell me about the successful moments where you said no to things that hurt your emotional well-being, even if it disappointed others, and yes to things that scared you - but in a good way?
Where have you succeeded in something hard that was invisible to others, like choosing to be kind to yourself instead of critical?
When have you followed a dream, a passion, a purpose - despite the critics?
Have you ever made a misfortunate mistake and honoured your right to be a flawed human? And have you ever found yourself in an incredibly difficult situation with your heart full of darkness and yet, been able to cling to hope for a better tomorrow?
When was the last time you woke up feeling happy?
That's how I'd measure success.
What's the story you tell yourself, and is it helpful or hindering?
But remember - it's your life, your choice!
After all, this is the Manual of YOU!
Until next time, take care, stay safe - and sane - and make kind choices!
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