Big organisations, small businesses, romantic relationships, family dinners, the classroom... We bring disruptive energy into every space we enter, projecting our insecurities onto others and then blaming them for what we see in them which is our mirrored reflection.
We mix and match, bringing the frustration of work home, and the annoyances with the other half into the boardroom. We transfer our family interaction onto our patients, clients, customers and pupils. We read the news and rant on social media because our limited viewpoint isn't represented and holding others accountable for our lack of speaking up or making a difference.
We blame, we blame, we blame.
We point, we react, we judge.
But where is the act of taking responsibility for the energy we bring?
For the projections and assumptions? For our inability to understand and manage our own emotions? For forcing our under-researched and biased opinions upon others?
Knowing what are our assumptions, hang-ups, insecurities, fears and problems are, is rare.
Noticing when we project instead of acknowledging our emotions as ours is rarer.
Taking responsibility is seldom role-modelled at home, at school, in governments or politics, on the news or on social media.
How are we supposed to know better?
Because we recognise it in others.
We blame others for doing 'it'.
We know what ‘it’ looks like when done to us.
You looked at the image and thought: "I know someone who does that!"
But did you look at the image and think: "I do that!"?
When are you going to role model emotional containment yourself and be the change you wish to see?
What's the story you’re telling yourself, and is it helpful or hindering?
Remember though, with whatever you read online, take what you like and leave the rest because it's your life and, therefore, your choice of how to live it.
After all, this is the Manual of YOU!
Until next time, take care, stay safe - and sane - make kind choices and stay flawsome! Don’t forget, you’re fucking brilliant!
(This was written by a human – a dyslexic one at that! Yay!)
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