It's easy to show a small child sympathy, cuddle them and offer them reassurance, even to minor injuries - usually, the child is eager to pity themselves too and demand due attention for their pain (whether imagined or real).
And yet, when adults need sympathy, cuddles and reassurance we're much quicker to offer scorn, insults and rejection - both to self and others.
Why is that?
Other times, adults, condescendingly, call a child 'attention seeking' when they’re behaving in a way that displeases the adult and most adults dread ever coming across as attention seeking themselves, pushing down, hiding and ignoring needs.
What would happen, both to the child and yourself, if you realised that all 'attention seeking' behaviours were simply 'connection craving' behaviours instead? What would happen if we treated anyone seeking attention as worthy of receiving it? How would our relationship change to this negatively loaded term if we saw it for what it is – a need not being met? And instead of judging, we paused to pay attention to the one seeking it?
What's the story you tell yourself, and is it helpful or hindering?
But remember - it's your life, your choice!
After all, this is the Manual of YOU!
Until next time, take care, stay safe - and sane - and make kind choices!
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