Don't think you're better than others.
Don't praise yourself as it'll lead to arrogance.
Taking care of yourself is selfish - don't.
Compassion and vulnerability are for the weak and meek - don't.
Courage is to bare all, silently.
Don't voice pain.
If you have emotions you're overly sensitive and attention-seeking - don't be that way.
Pull yourself up by the bootstraps - don't feel sorry for yourself.
Put your big boy/girl pants on - don't admit to struggling.
Don't be different.
Don't stand out.
Don't be a sheep.
Don't think you're likeable or good enough.
Don't think your opinion matters.
Don't be generous with praise.
Don't accept praise or you're egotistical
These are the commandments I grew up with and that I see visible in society.
How about you?
Who taught us these lessons and are they healthy or helpful?
I, personally, don’t think so and refuse to live by them any longer.
Do be human. Do be flawed. Do love your imperfections as they make you so relatable. Do let go of your perfectionist standards. Do dare to not be liked – it’s incredibly freeing. Do be you, as you are or freely choose to be. Do let go of lessons, opinions, beliefs, traditions, expectations, and commandments that don’t serve you.
Don't live a life that doesn't serve you well.
What's the story you tell yourself, and is it helpful or hindering?
Remember though - it's your life, your choice!
After all, this is the Manual of YOU!
Until next time, take care, stay safe - and sane - and make kind choices!
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