Comparison is a curse we put on ourselves.
We either compare up = jealousy ("I want what they have. Here are all the reasons I'm a failure for not having that...").
Or, we compare down = guilt or judgement ("how can I feel bad when there are so many far worse off? Or, "they're such losers!")
You're unlikely to achieve much from either, other than unhappiness.
Why not compare yourself to people who'll motivate you instead?
Why not think about everything others envy you for?
Or, even better, reframe 'comparison' with 'inspiration':
"I want what they have - what do I need to do to achieve that?"
"That homeless person is so much worse off than me - how can this encounter inspire me to be the change I want to see in the world?"
"I caught myself judging that person as a loser - what do I see in them I can’t admit to being myself?"
"I feel like a failure - how might this feeling inspire me to make changes that’ll make me feel better about myself?"
What's the story you tell yourself, and is it helpful or hindering?
Remember though - it's your life, your choice!
After all, this is the Manual of YOU!
Until next time, take care, stay safe - and sane - and make kind choices!
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