Guilt is saying "I did something wrong."
Shame is saying "I am wrong."
People might say: “Don’t you feel guilty?” (Translated: Don’t you think you did something wrong here?)
Or, people might say: “You should feel ashamed of yourself” (translated: You are not ok. You are wrong.)
Know the difference, so you know how to tackle them.
Guilt is a signal that you've broken a moral code and you need to re-evaluate and make peace with, or change, your action.
Shame is deep-rooted in our inner shadows and is based on a negative story you tell yourself about yourself, which is most likely inaccurate.
Guilt can be removed by integrity and value-based decisions, or guilt can live on, but more comfortably, by reframing it as a healthy compass rather than an uncomfortable feeling to avoid.
We don't always need to feel comfortable. Uncomfortable feelings are allowed.
Shame, on the other hand, isn't just uncomfortable, it's painful and harmful, and can only be removed by shining a light on it - out loud.
What's the story you tell yourself, and is it helpful or hindering?
But remember - it's your life, your choice!
After all, this is the Manual of YOU!
Until next time, take care, stay safe - and sane - and make kind choices!
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