Volumes have been written about love. No one agrees on what it looks like, what it feels like, or how to make it last but everyone has an opinion!
We all crave it and most of us fear it too.
We all know that pain, loss and grief are the costs of love but that doesn’t mean we like it, accept it or ever feel prepared for it. And we all know we can’t survive without it and yet many of us try to avoid it, hide from it and downplay it.
Are they The One?
First of all, why don’t you do the work to make yourself The One first? To make yourself the greatest love of your life? To have and to hold, for better and for worse, for richer and poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish?
Why is that not the great love story we’re taught before all else? Why is this not the love story imparted to us by our parents?
Secondly, why not make The One into The Ones – friends, lovers, family. Let them come and go, love them, honour them, cherish them, support them. Let them enrich your life and be part of enriching theirs. Let love be something given and received in abundance instead of this singular, romantic focus.
And finally, you’ll know if your significant other is The One in about 25 years so why are you stressing about that already now?
What's the story you tell yourself, and is it helpful or hindering?
Remember though - it's your life, your choice!
After all, this is the Manual of YOU!
Until next time, take care, stay safe - and sane - and make kind choices!
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