If you want to know one of the most unhelpful pieces of advice we can give another human it's 'put a lid on it'.
It's up there with 'calm down' when someone is really worked up, or 'let it go' when someone is hurt, or 'shake it off' when someone is upset.
It's not only unhelpful, it's damaging and an incredibly stupid thing to suggest.
Our emotions are there to be expressed. They serve a purpose.
Am I saying all should rage and scream as they see fit when they see fit?
But there's a big difference between managing emotions and learning to understand and express your emotions helpfully compared to 'putting a lid on it' which translates into ignoring, containing, bottling up and forcing down. That serves no one, not least the suppressor.
Our emotions tell a story – why not invite someone to share what that story is instead of shaming them into silence?
What's the story you’re telling yourself, and is it helpful or hindering?
Remember though, with whatever you read online, take what you like and leave the rest because it's your life and, therefore, your choice of how to live it.
After all, this is the Manual of YOU!
Until next time, take care, stay safe - and sane - make kind choices and stay flawsome! Don’t forget, you’re fucking brilliant!
(This was written by a human – a dyslexic one at that! Yay!)
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