This is an odd message coming from a therapeutic coach. I work in the industry of change, personal development and growth.
People seek out counsellors and life coaches to change.
And yet, they resist.
They don't 'do the work'.
They stay stuck.
They blame themselves.
They get angry or sad.
They criticise themselves.
They cry, rage, rant, and go ‘round in circles.
What if you've grown up never feeling good enough?
Always striving to improve.
Always being told to do better, to try harder.
Never feeling understood or accepted.
What if this has made you so unhappy, that you now seek change?
Seek a better life, a happier life.
Seek a different way of being.
What if coming to see someone like me, offering you insights, suggestions, tools, strategies, options and tasks makes some part of you feel not good enough, yet again?
Not accepted as you are.
What if your resistance is a small voice saying:
Accept me as I am!
Flaws and all.
What if you're seeking change based on minimising the unacceptable part of yourself? The ugly? The sad? The stuck? The misunderstood? The unwanted? The rejected? The humiliated?
What if true transformation is to accept what is and not seek what could be?
What's the story you’re telling yourself, and is it helpful or hindering?
Remember though, with whatever you read online, take what you like and leave the rest because it's your life and, therefore, your choice of how to live it.
After all, this is the Manual of YOU!
Until next time, take care, stay safe - and sane - make kind choices and stay flawsome! Don’t forget, you’re fucking brilliant!
(This was written by a human – a dyslexic one at that! Yay!)
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