So, we developed a story telling part to our brains.
This story telling ability can save us and kill us - depending on the story.
Once the story would have been:
"Watch out for that brown snake or you'll die."
And even though, 99% of the time, it was just a branch, it was an important story to ensure we didn't get bidden by a poisonous snake even once!
Or, the story that once went: "Please every one in the tribe" because otherwise you'd risk rejection and once upon a time, living alone equated to death.
But today, when we live a life of high anxiety, watching out for that metaphorical brown snake, and causing ourselves unnecessary stress, we're most likely telling ourselves a story that isn't true. Or, when we tell ourselves the story that we have to people please or we'll parish, it simply isn't true either.
Or, when we tell ourselves that no one likes us, there are no solutions, and no one will miss us if we cease to exist, these are not facts, but simply stories.
Likewise, when we don't apply for a job, or ask someone out, or go to an audition because we think we're not good enough, it probably these stories probably aren't true neither, but, more importantly, it certainly won't kill us to try regardless.
One of the biggest problems with our stories is that, by and large, no one else cares.
Gravity doesn't care if you tell yourself that car accidents only happens to other people so you don't need to put on your seat belt or wear a bicycle helmet.
Melanoma doesn't care if you think skin cancer happens to other people as you skip sun lotion.
Cancer doesn't care if you find your unhealthy eating, drinking or smoking habits safe.
Tell stories that help you, not hinder you, and tell stories that consider all the elements that don't care about your story. Tell stories that include risks because you most likely won't die from putting yourself out there.
What's the story you tell yourself, and is it helpful or hindering?
But remember - it's your life, your choice!
After all, this is the Manual of YOU.
Until next time, take care, stay safe - and sane - and make kind choices!
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