We’re meaning-seeking, meaning-making animals. We misremember and confabulate (honest-lying) all the time. Based on past experiences we associate events with emotions that our brains remember.
Tight chest + event you don’t like = anxiety.
The brain didn’t decide that a tight chest means anxiety, your choice of words, the story you told yourself about the event, created that association.
And you can undo that association again – by changing your words and by telling a better story.
If you’ve made a mistake and its hurt people, you might call yourself stupid, a burden, problematic, a failure, or a bad friend/colleague/partner/parent but was it your intention to hurt? If not, why not choose words more fitting? Change the story to one that benefits your relationship with yourself instead of making it worse?
There’s a big difference between lying or denying the truth and offering yourself a more nuanced story that supports your well-being. One is gaslighting, the other is kind.
What's the story you tell yourself, and is it helpful or hindering?
But remember - it's your life, your choice!
After all, this is the Manual of YOU!
Until next time, take care, stay safe - and sane - and make kind choices!
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