I once worked with a client who’d often say: "That's not an interesting question. The interesting question is..." and he'd flip it.
I once had a client ask me: "If you think I'm to blame in any given situation, will you tell me?"
I answered: "Whether you were right or wrong, or to blame or not, that's not an interesting question. It won't give us a useful answer. If I say yes, then what? What can you do with that? How will it serve you? Help you? Move things forward in a productive manner?
The interesting question is, why did you, and why did they, behave like you/they did? What was the motivation?
That answer is useful for future actions."
Questions stemming from judgement are seldom interesting or helpful.
Find a more interesting question instead - one that's supportive, expansive and deepens understanding, instead of limiting, hurtful and disconnecting.
What's the story you tell yourself, and is it helpful or hindering?
Remember though - it's your life, your choice!
After all, this is the Manual of YOU!
Until next time, take care, stay safe - and sane - and make kind choices!
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