Nancy Kline writes in More Time to Think:
"Expressing feelings is okay sometimes. That is, they are there to be experienced, not repressed or demeaned or denied. But sometimes they arise in situations in which expressing them is dangerous - dangerous to good thinking. (...) Let's say you are in a group. Someone says something. It enraged you. You strike at them. You say later that you were being authentic, human, honest. You felt rage. You expressed rage. What is wrong with that?
Only one thing. People stop thinking. And so do you. Rage silences. So, if silence is your aim, rage on. But that silence is only survival. It is not a reply. It is not even compliance. It is fear."
Kline encourages us to think before we speak, express, react. It helps both us and those around us to think, speak, express and act better, healthier, more constructively and helpfully - she calls it, creating a Thinking Environment.
What might be different for you and those in your life, if everyone was given more time to think?
What's the story you tell yourself, and is it helpful or hindering?
Remember though - it's your life, your choice!
After all, this is the Manual of YOU!
Until next time, take care, stay safe - and sane - and make kind choices!
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