There's a famous cartoon of a man asking WHO WANTS CHANGE?
Everyone in the crowd raises their hands.
WHO WANTS TO CHANGE?
Everyone in the crowd looks away awkwardly.
WHO WILL LEAD THE CHANGE?
Everyone runs away.
Change is often wanted but it's hard to do.
Because change is scary.
Even when we're not happy with the status quo, the brain likes familiarity.
Even unhappy 'stuckness' offers certainty and a sense of control.
Change can feel overwhelming.
When we think of the change we want we often use words with a negative connotation, like 'move away from'. We use avoidance language like 'I want to lose weight as I looked awful on my last holiday'.
'Away' goals are harder to sustain than positive 'towards' goals.
So, try thinking of change coming from a positive mindset: 'I want to feel empowered', 'I want to more of…', 'I strive towards'...
And see what happens.
What's the story you’re telling yourself, and is it helpful or hindering?
Remember though, with whatever you read online, take what you like and leave the rest because it's your life and, therefore, your choice of how to live it.
After all, this is the Manual of YOU!
Until next time, take care, stay safe - and sane - make kind choices and stay flawsome! Don’t forget, you’re fucking brilliant!
(This was written by a human – a dyslexic one at that! Yay!)
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