In the coaching industry, there's a saying that the client is whole, resourceful and creative.
As a counsellor, I think of some of the individuals I've spoken to who've described themselves as broken, clueless and useless.
I ponder how a mantra like that - theirs as well as the coaching industry's - impact their mental state.
Their mantra makes them feel bad but the coaching industry's mantra might make them feel even worse.
Some research suggests that if we try and make ourselves believe something that is too far away from our self-view it can cause even more damage as we now feel like liars. So I may think my clients are whole, resourceful and creative but I don’t offer them this mantra if I think they’ll disagree.
I offer this, silently, to my clients and friends and the homeless person I pass on the street: I believe in you. I believe in your potential and capabilities to feel whole and complete because that's how you felt when you were born. I know you're resourceful, I see it, we just need to get you to see it too. And we're all creative, we may not all think our creativity yields beauty but we can all sway to music, all smear paint whether on a wall, canvas or face, all put words together that spell out understandable sentences, we can all interact with an instrument to make sounds, even if it’s awful.
Creativity isn't about the result, it's about the process.
It changed my relationship with my worldview to believe in others' wholeness, resourcefulness and creativity. I don't need to voice it to know it.
I believe that viewing people as whole, resourceful and creative makes my interaction with them healing on its own, without words, compared to if I interacted with them believing the opposite.
I wonder what it'd do to your worldview if you were to do the same?
What's the story you’re telling yourself, and is it helpful or hindering?
Remember though, with whatever you read online, take what you like and leave the rest because it's your life and, therefore, your choice of how to live it.
After all, this is the Manual of YOU!
Until next time, take care, stay safe - and sane - make kind choices and stay flawsome! Don’t forget, you’re fucking brilliant!
(This was written by a human – a dyslexic one at that! Yay!)
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