When we say:
"He makes me feel so sad."
Or, "She made me feel so angry"
Or, "They made me feel so worthless"
Or, "I lost my temper because my son was throwing a tantrum"
Or, "He/she/they made me..."
we're not only giving away control of our state of mind but also refusing to take responsibility for ourselves and our feelings.
What makes you feel sad, angry, worthless or any other emotion due to someone else's behaviour, actions or words won't have the same impact on someone else. What you might find offensive, someone else might find funny. So, is it the offending person that's the issue or your attitude?
Is it the offending person that must change or your own behaviour, actions, words or feelings?
What would it look like if you took control and responsibility for your own feelings and reactions? And let others take responsibility for their words and actions?
What would it look like if instead of saying “he made me feel...” you say “I choose to feel...”
What's the story you tell yourself, and is it helpful or hindering?
Remember though - it's your life, your choice!
After all, this is the Manual of YOU!
Until next time, take care, stay safe - and sane - and make kind choices!
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